Marriage & Family Life

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Bay Pointe’s Marriage & Family Life Ministry exists to support marriages and families through seminars, retreats, workshops as well as information and resources on this website. Please take advantage of these resources designed to help make your marriage and family healthier and stronger.


Congratulations! We are eager to serve you and to do our best to make your wedding day one that will glorify God and celebrate your commitment to each other. To learn more about the marriage process at Bay Pointe, please click HERE »


 

Thank you to all that attended our Couples Retreat on March 8 with Pastor Nick and special guests Andy and Jill Phillips Gullahorn! The retreat was a huge success – see for yourselves!


 

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Prepare to Last, Pre-Marriage Weekend
April 11-12, 2014
If you are engaged or seriously dating, we would love to have you to join us for our spring pre-marriage weekend seminar. Friday night and Saturday we will cover the following topics: healthy expectations for marriage, spiritual intimacy in your relationship, bridging the differences in your personalities, building intimacy through healthy communication, building a financial team, and handling inevitable conflict in marriage. Click here to download the course brochure »

Friday, April 11, 6:30 – 9:00 pm
Saturday, April 12, 8:30 am – 3:00 pm

Cost is $100 for the seminar; and an additional $35 for Prepare, the premarital online assessment. Each couple is required to complete this online assessment prior to the weekend.

To register for this amazing weekend, please email Polly Sonneveldt at  psonneveldt@bponline.org, by calling the BP offices at 922-9882 or signing up at The HUB in the lobby.


 

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Series — Marriage: Why Bother?
Whether you’re single or married, considering marriage or recovering from a devastating experience… this series is for you!

 

Video Message from Sunday, February 2 – The Secret
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Video Message from Sunday, February 9 – Sex: Singles & Marrieds
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Video Message from Sunday, February 16 – Crazy Love
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Video Message from Sunday, February 23 – Healing the Wounds
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Video Message from Sunday, March 2 – Loving the Stranger
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Video Message from Sunday, March 9 – Deep Friendship
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  • Thinking About Getting Married?

    First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!
    We share in your happiness as you formulate your wedding plans and begin the beautiful adventure of marriage. We are anxious to serve you and to do our best to make your wedding day one that will glorify God and celebrate your commitment to each other.

    As we all know, a wedding celebration lasts a few hours, but a marriage lasts for a lifetime. For this reason, we encourage you to make an investment of time for preparing for your wedding celebration, which will lay a firm foundation for a lifetime of committed marriage. The marriage process at Bay Pointe has been developed through prayer, experience, and careful planning. We sincerely hope that these guidelines and pre-marital steps will help you as you prepare for your day of celebration and a meaningful lifelong relationship.

    Download Bay Pointe’s Wedding Packet
    This packet contains the following information on how BPCC will help you build a solid foundation for your marriage relationship:
    • Wedding Application
    • Facilities Guidelines and Associated Fees
    • Elder’s Statement on Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage
    • Marriage Preparation Profile for the Bride
    • Marriage Preparation Profile for the Groom

    Tips for Getting Started »


  • Small Group Resources for Marriage

    Staying in Love, Andy Stanley
    DVD Study

    We all know what’s required to fall in love… a pulse. Falling in love is easy, but staying together with the one you’ve found seems to be the real challenge. Let Andy Stanley show you how in this four-session, video-based study. In addition to the small group sessions, this DVD is enhanced with four full-length messages. Titles include: Love is a Verb, Re-Modeling, Feelin’ It, and Multiple Choice Marriage.

    • Each session includes 15-20 minutes of teaching from pastor and author Andy Stanley.

    To check out this resource for your small group,
    please contact Elizabeth Vandermolen.

     

    Rock Your Marriage, Dave and Ann Wilson
    DVD Study

    Dave and Ann Wilson led a remarkably marriage retreat weekend at Bay Pointe March 9/10, and we have their DVD covering the materials of the same title Rock Your Marriage.  This nationally-known duo shares their unique blend of wisdom, humor and practical advice at workshops and conferences across the country. As keynote speakers for Family Life marriage seminars, they’re known for their no-holds-barred look at marriage and family issues.  This DVD covers three sessions: what men and women need; the challenge of predictable conflict in marriage; developing intimate, God honoring sex in your marriage, and breakout sessions for husbands and wives.

    • Can be done individuals, within a marriage, or in a small group for great discussion.

    To check out this resource for your small group,
    please contact Elizabeth Vandermolen.

     

    iMarriage, Andy Stanley
    DVD Study

    A classic 6 part series in which Andy Stanley explores the challenge of the unspoken expectations brought into relationships that can fuel conflict and begin to derail love and intimacy.

    • Great DVD teaching, and participant’s guide available.

    To check out this resource for your small group,
    please contact Elizabeth Vandermolen.

     

    Boundaries in Marriage, Drs. Cloud and Townsend
    DVD Study

    Learn when to say yes and when to say no – to your spouse and to others – to make the most of your marriage. Only when a husband and wife know and respect each others needs, choices, and freedom can they give themselves freely and lovingly to one another. Boundaries are the “property lines” that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved. Learn the 10 laws of boundaries that can help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage – and move to mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy.

    • 8 Session DVD with Participant’s Guide.

    To check out this resource for your small group,
    please contact Elizabeth Vandermolen.

     

    Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage, Mark Gungor
    DVD Study

    Mark Gunger has a hilarious, practical and no-holds-barred advice about relationships. This series is full of video clips of his marriage weekend seminar, and is broken into twelve, 60 minutes sessions with a leader’s guide and participant’s guide.  Sessions include: The Tale of Two Brains, How to Stay Married and Not Kill Anybody, The Key to Incredible Sex, Teaching an Old Dog New Tricks, and The Princess and the Warrior.

    • Lots of fun, and great material for positive change in marriage!

    To check out this resource for your small group,
    please contact Elizabeth Vandermolen.


     
  • Great Family Resources

    Resources to Build Healthy Families

    Great Books on Marriage:
    • The Meaning of Marriage, Timothy Keller with Kathy Keller
    • The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
    • Boundaries in Marriage, Henry Cloud and John Townsend
    • Love and Respect, Emerson Eggerich
    • Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts, Les and Leslie Parrott
    • Fighting for Your Marriage, Scott Stanley

     

    Great Books for Parenting:
    Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children, Henry Cloud and John Townsend
    Have a New Teen by Friday, Kevin Leman
    Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, John Townsend
    Parenting With Love and Logic, Foster Kline and Jim Fay
    Raising a Modern-Day Knight: A Father’s Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood, Robert Lewis
    Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, Meg Meeker
    Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World, Jill Rigby
    The Smart Stepfamily, Ron Deal
     


    Online Resources

    • For dating, engaged & married couples: www.growthtrac.com
    • Articles and resources for couples & parents: www.focusonthefamily.com 
    • Gary Chapman’s website offers blog entries and an overview of the five love languages for adults, children and teens, as well as assessments you take for free: www.5lovelanguages.com
    • Great resources for stepfamilies: www.smartstepfamilies.com
    Jimmy & Karen Evans: www.marriagetoday.com
    • Resources of Henry Cloud & John Townsend, authors of the Boundaries books: www.cloudtownsend.com
    • Resources/online classes: www.activeparenting.com

     


    Need Help or Support?

    We believe that nothing of eternal value happens without prayer and so beginning with prayer is a part of everything we do here at Bay Pointe. In fact, prayer is one of our Core Values. Prayer needs and requests are shared with the pastors, Care Ministry staff and some uniquely passionate volunteers who serve on our Prayer Chain and Prayer Team and will remain confidential within this group. Consider starting with prayer now, and asking for prayer from our prayer team as you seek additional resources. Please email your prayer requests to prayer@bponline.org

    If you are struggling with marital or parental challenges, you are encouraged to ask for help. God never intended that we live life in isolation—particularly when we struggle. A trusted friend, family member, or small group leader who shares your faith perspective and beliefs is a great place to ask for prayer and counsel. In addition, you may call one of the Care Ministry staff to discuss options that may be available within the church family or in our extended community. We have a few trusted Christian Counselors that we refer to when professional counseling is desirable. You can reach us through the main Bay Pointe office at 231 922-9882, and ask for Linda Lewis, Chris Bornschein, or Emily Hale.


 

 

 

Connect with the Marriage & Family Life Ministry on Facebook, click here! For more information about our Marriage & Family Life Ministry, please email Linda Lewis or call the Bay Pointe offices, 231.922.9882.